The Things We've

All Learned (Or Will Learn)


    I got most of these thoughts from an email sent to my family from my cousin Mark in Oregon, but I've added some myself.  They kind of make you think.
 

I've learned
    that you can't make someone love you.
    All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
    The rest is up to them.

I've learned
    that no matter how much I care,
    some people just don't care back.

I've learned
    that it takes years to build up trust,
    and only seconds to destroy it.

I've learned
    that it's not what you have in your life
    but who you have in your life that counts.

I've learned
    that you can get by on charm for about 15 minutes.
    After that, you'd better know something.

I've learned
    that you shouldn't compare
    yourself to the best others can do.

I've learned
    that you can do something in an instant
    that will give you heartache for life.

I've learned
    that it's taking me a long time
    to become the person I want to be.

I've learned
    that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
    It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned
    that you can keep going
    long after you think you can't.

I've learned
    that we are responsible for what we do,
    no matter how we feel.

I've learned
    that either you control your attitude
    or it controls you.

I've learned
    that regardless of how hot and steamy
    a relationship is at first,
    the passion fades and there better
    be something else to take its place.

I've learned
    that heroes are the people
    who do what has to be done
    when it needs to be done,
    regardless of the consequences.

I've learned
    that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I've learned
    that my best friend and I can do anything
    or nothing and have the best time.

I've learned
    that sometimes the people you expect
    to kick you when you're down
    will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned
    that sometimes when I'm angry
    I have the right to be angry,
    but that doesn't give me
    the right to be cruel.

I've learned
    that true friendship continues to grow,
    even over the longest distance.
    Same goes for true love.

I've learned
    that just because someone doesn't love
    you the way you want them to doesn't
    mean they don't love you with all they have.

I've learned
    that maturity has more to do with
    what types of experiences you've had
    and what you've learned from them
    and less to do with how many
    birthdays you've celebrated.

I've learned
    that you should never tell a child
    their dreams are unlikely or outlandish.
    Few things are more humiliating, and
    what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

I've learned
    that no matter how good a friend is,
    they're going to hurt you every once in a while
    and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned
    that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
    Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I've learned
    that no matter how bad your heart is broken
    the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned
    that our background and circumstances
    may have influenced who we are,
    but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned
    that just because two people argue,
    it doesn't mean they don't love each other
    And just because they don't argue,
    It doesn't mean they do.

I've learned
    that we don't have to change friends
    if we understand that friends change.

I've learned
    that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret.
    It could change your life forever.

I've learned
    that two people can look at the exact same thing
    and see something totally different.

I've learned
    that no matter how you try to protect your children,
    they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I've learned
    that even when you think you have no more to give,
    when a friend cries out to you, you will find the
    strength to help.

I've learned
    that credentials on the wall
    do not make you a decent human being.

I've learned
    that the people you care most about
    in life are taken from you too soon.

I've learned
    that it's hard to determine where to draw
    the line between being nice and not hurting
    people's feelings and standing up
    for what you believe.

I've learned
    that you should always tell people when
    they do something good or look nice.

I've learned
    to never forget who loves me.

I've learned
    that no matter how strong some people
    appear to be, they still hurt.

I've learned
    that actions speak louder than words.

I've learned
    to never forget to see the humor in everything.

I've learned
    that you should always listen to your heart,
    your brain can get you in trouble.

I've learned
    that some people will always be close to your
    heart and you should keep them there.

I've learned
    that you should always admire the moon, the stars, and sunsets.

I've learned
    that you shouldn't ever take things for granted,
    it will catch up with you.

I've learned
    that you should always spend money and time wisely.

I've learned
    that there will always be another game on.

I've learned
    that short term pleasure almost always
    leads to long term heartache.

I've learned
    In school, no matter how far ahead you plan
    to do a paper or project, chances are you'll
    have to stay up all night the night before
    to finish it.

I've learned
    that learning to budget your time is just
    as important as budgeting money.

I've learned
    that even if you haven't spoken to a person
    in five years, you still feel their impact in your life
    and you'll realize this when it's too late to thank them.

I've learned
    that once you get past adolescence and growing up,
    your brother who had been you're most hated enemy
    in childhood can become your most trusted friend and
    he will know you better than anyone else possibly can.

I've learned
    that holding grudges doesn't make you a stronger
    person it just makes you bitter.

I've learned
    that we will be on this earth for 70 or 80 years
    so why go through that time without a smile
    on your face.

I've learned
    that no matter how hard you try, you will judge
    every person you see, but that doesn't mean
    you have to abide by your judgment.

I've learned
    that you know people are your true friends when
    every time you think about them, you smile.

I've learned
    that hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

I've learned
    that a good conversation beats
    a good TV show any day.

I've learned
    that parents really were once children too.

I've learned
    that no matter how much you think so,
    you don't know as much as your parents.

I've learned
    that dogs are really great friends.

I've learned
    that high school is lived in a bubble in which
    you are completely oblivious to the wonders
    of the outside world.

I've learned
    that the high school years are the best
    and simplest of your life.

I've learned
    that you should cherish your memories
    of childhood and even write them down,
    because the mind has a way to forget sometimes.

I've learned
    that you shouldn't ever say that you'll
    never do something again, because
    chances are you will.

I've learned
    that the friendships you have as a child
    and adolescent will come and go often.

I've learned
    that there will be a new thing at least once a year
    that's the "end of the world."  Learn from this event
    because the next one's always worse.

I've learned
    that you shouldn't ever say that things
    can't get any worse, because they can.

I've learned
    that you will be "in love" at least 5 times
    before you really are.

I've learned
    that you shouldn't let yourself get bored
    for too long, there's always something to do.

I've learned
    that your mother will always be your mother,
    even when your 40 years old.  That's just
    the way it is.

I've learned
    that it is always much more fun to chase something
    than to catch it, especially the opposite sex.

I've learned
    that communication is the most important skill to have.

I've learned
    that a sense of humor is the most important thing to keep.

I've learned
    that tomorrow is a whole new day, so
    don't carry things over from yesterday.

I've learned
    that you should always return a smile.

I've learned
    that you should start each day happy until
    something makes you sad, not the opposite.

I've learned
    that making someone feel stupid
    is a horrible thing to do.

I've learned
    that you really know you love somebody
    when you don't mind losing to them.

I've learned
    that changing the radio station or talking on
    a cell phone is not more important than
    watching the road.

I've learned
    that if you're doing something wrong and you
    get caught, don't get mad, it's your own fault.

I've learned
    that winning at something just means that
    you have no where to go but down.

I've learned
    that hind sight is most definitely 20-20.

I've learned
    that it's important to be a good loser, but even
    more important to be a good winner.

I've learned
    that good pitching always beats good hitting.

I've learned
    that making mistakes is human, refusing to admit
    them makes you a jack ass.

I've learned
    that you're conscience is a good thing, listen to it.

I've learned
    that you should never tell anyone that you hate them,
    even if you're kidding.

I've learned
    that a guy will always act like a jerk in front of his friends.

I've learned
    that nothing is a gift if you expect something in return.

I've learned
    that if you think you're better than another person,
    then you're obviously not.

I've learned
    that at least half of the times you say, "I'm sorry,"
    you really won't be.

I've learned
    that whether you watch a game on TV or not,
    it's not going to effect the outcome.

I've learned
    that you are always going to remember
    more bad things than good.

I've learned
    that what you want to believe will always win out
    over what you should believe.

I've learned
    that there will always be a part of us
    that wants to go outside and play in the rain.
 

And last but not least,

I've learned
    that men will never figure out women, and women
    will never figure out why men can't figure them out.